Dating bad

There’s a super fine line between wanting and needing a man, and I haven’t figure it out yet.

I feel like a young woman as outgoing, independent and attractive as myself should have men fawning over her.

If I deem this guy worthy of my time, I want him to become a part of my life immediately. But in this day in age, it seems like this course of action scares all men (boys) away.

I also tend to put him first, sacrificing my dreams and compromising my wants for him. But here’s the thing - my lifestyle and attitude portrays that I don’t NEED a man.

I make my own income, I make all my own decisions, I’m independent and strong, opinionated and educated.

I take care of myself, not for anyone, but for myself.

I checked in with him a few days later, and he told me what he had been up to, and that he planned go on a road trip with friends that weekend. A few days after that I sent another text, and came in a little hotter this time, basically saying I’d love to go out again if he’s free. I desire to be in a loving, committed relationship with a guy I can also call my best friend. It’s tough for me to meet men who I think are worth my time and energy.

I also don’t deal with rejection well, so it takes a lot for me to accept someone into my life with the possibly of being hurt.

We went to the top of the mountain by school and watched the sky line until 4am. He made me lunch and I bought us breakfast the next morning. Like I was going to run into him by mistake and it would indeed be weird and uncomfortable. So I texted him to ask for closure.22m) I was afraid of talking to a girl that got my attention at a lunch table at my college, because I've always, had low self esteem and assumed I'd appear creepy to others, I overcame it and talked to her.

But he made me feel like one of the most beautiful women in the world, so I thought I would try something new and give him a chance.

But before long our differences caught up with us and I learned I would never be the sweet, compliant, mousy blonde that he desired to marry. 2 months later, I saw on social media that he was happily dating a bright-eyed, sweet mousey blonde. I wasn’t even in the mindset of dating when we met.

So he was sent the follow up text later that night, and we both agreed on going out again soon. Just wondering if it's better if I wait a few weeks or do it as soon as possible. For initial context: I’m a 26F living in a large metropolitan city in the PNW.

He continued to talk to me for two more days, then disappeared. But either way at the very least I hope to keep her as a friend. It comes and goes in waves but I very much struggle with being single.

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