Christian and secular dating
Selfish taking is a form of hatred, which destroys all hope for relationship. The two go hand in hand, according to some, and are interchangeable.
Contrary to this, love creates relationship, and the creation of relationship should consistently be the main goal within a Christ-led courtship. Because there is no Biblical background to most relationships, there is no context to sex.
Millions of unsaved people make it a habit to take without giving, while Christians are supposed to do just the opposite. But within love, giving becomes the most radical testimony a Christian could share, for love through giving is a way to reach out to anybody, be they Muslim, Atheist, or Buddhist.
Christians must learn to give, not out of duty, but out of love, for “If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing” (English Standard Version, 1 Corinthians. Giving is not only a testimony of faith but also a testimony of character.
Despite the apparent similarities between secular and Christian dating, Christians should remember that dating is a gift from God, and should be treated with all due respect and reverence.
One of the major differences between secular and Christian dating is the means.
The lack of autonomy and equality in the “Biblical” guidelines presented by Croft I think is the main reason why people find this view so hard to accept.
On I wrote an article for The Catholic Weekly that went a little viral.
I posited the view (shared by many I know) that the dating options and environment in the Church are abysmal.
This is a paper I have been working on for a while.
I haven’t totally finished editing it, but I wanted to post it today, so here you go.